What you will learn in "The Sex Date"

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Healing Your Heart
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We have all been influenced by family, friends, religion, politics, books, cinema and a collection of social and cultural events. They have shaped our beliefs, opinions and ideas around intimacy, sex and romantic relationships. On this date you’ll discover and discuss what you believe at the core. rollercoaster of twists and turns that keeps you hooked from start to finish.

Only after you acknowledge and verbalize what your current beliefs are, will you have the ability to reevaluate them. You see, when we change what we “believe” it changes how we “behave” and when we change how we behave, well, that changes everything!

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Honoring Your Lover
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Look, if you treat each other like crap all week, no amount of mood lighting and lingerie will get you laid Friday night. So, what’s the solution? Honor.

Here’s how it works. When we are honoring our lover we are saying I hear you, I see you, I value you. Also, honor is the healing antidote to shame. Shame is the belief, “I am bad.” It encompasses feelings of being unlovable, unwanted, & unworthy, which lead to behaviors that isolate and blame.

The good news is that we change this toxic pattern when we show love and respect by honoring each other. I promise you’ll soon feel the warmth as sparks ignite the flames of passion once again.

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Having Hotter Sex
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Who doesn’t want to have those toe curling, sheet twisting, “Yes-Yes-Yes!” Orgasms?

I’ll teach you how the 5 senses (when stimulated to your lovers liking) can be the bread crumbs leading you both into the bedroom. You will turn the routine-run-of-the-mill-same-old-sex into Hot-Passionate-Let’s-Do-That-Again-Sex! And I promise, this is not what you’ve heard before; “Touch me here, kiss me there, do it like this…” We’re going beyond the physical, and embodying the emotional, psychological, and spiritual as well.

Get ready. Your campfire romance is about to become a 5-alarm house fire extravaganza!

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Meet Barbie

Barbie Christenson, author of The Sex Date, combines science, Scriptures, and personal storytelling to guide readers on a transformative journey toward deeper intimacy and connection. With a refreshing, unashamed, and relatable approach, Barbie helps couples break free from feelings of shame and embrace open, healthy conversations about sex.

Her work empowers readers to heal emotional wounds, honor their partner, and reignite passion in their relationships. Vulnerable and authentic, Barbie shows how to turn once-taboo topics into opportunities for growth. If you're ready to rekindle romance, strengthen your bond, and fully explore your sexual desires, The Sex Date is your guide.

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Testimonials

What The Sex Date Readers Are Saying

Discover why readers are raving about "The Sex Date." Read their heartfelt reviews and see how this book has helped couples around the world.

This book opened my eyes and gave me practical advice!

I am in my mid 50s and been married over 25 years and thought I had intimacy and sex all sorted it my neat little box. This book was a BIG TIME wake up call. There is so much I didn't know and reading this gave me tangible ways to connect at a deeper level with my husband. Barbie writes in such a way that you can't help but be curious and motivated to experiment. I really appreciate her transparency and straight talk. The visual diagrams of the vaginal and penile region on 178 and 181 were super helpful. She really is spot on when she says "everyone is having sex, but no one is talking about it". I highly recommend this book.

Great Advice!

The Sex Date is relatable and provides sound advice for monogamous couples (often times long term marriages) about how to spice up your sex life. Ms. Christensen’s book will help me talk about the subject more freely with my husband. Well done and worth the read!

Easy to read, sex positive, insight and guidance whether your partnered or not

Even though I am in the divorced category, I found this book affirming and easy to read when it comes to the topic of bringing better sex, openness, healing and connection back into partnerships. I think what made this such a good read are the relatable scenarios and no-nonsense voice of naming the desires that live in all of us and how to get back to the tender areas that need healing and connection back to the wild inside. I will go back to this again, as I find myself in relationships to not fall into familiar places of disconnect. I highly recommend this read no matter what state you are in your relationships.

Refreshing Look on the Topic of Sex and Intimacy

The topic of sex is one of shame for many and Barbie’s book provides both practical insight and tools for couples to talk honestly and openly about the topic of sex. Backed up by sound research, it breaches topics that have a profound impact on sex and intimacy including body image, prior experiences, trauma, fear, social and cultural expectations, childhood issues, and so much more. This book helped me become more comfortable with who I am while helping to unveil my own troubling heart issues that have kept me from experiencing the love, connection, and passionate God given desires that exist between a couple.

A MUST READ!!

Not only had this helped me with my sex life, but it also helped me create an understanding for myself that I didn't know I needed. Sex is a part of connection, pleasure, and vulnerability with oneself and one's partner. Barbie creates a safe book that talks about just that!

Incredible read - Can not wait to use for Valentine's Day!

With her non-nonchalant brevity to difficult topics, and entertaining life stories; Barbie Christenson makes you truly feel the level of research and passion she has put into The Sex Date - without being overwhelming (or boring) with study after study. The book is so easy to follow and read. It seems like basic, everyday information that we should know, but we don't use, when we are in a rut. Highly recommend, and share with others!